Dating someone who you are not attracted to

Like getting a tattoo with someone’s name on your back and breaking up four months later.

The truth is that life lasts for a REALLY, REALLY long time.

He is not ugly but I don’t like his features and overall appearance.

Physically, I find he is not a “match” for me and I am not proud of being so shallow.

But be very careful that you don't decide to let him know of his alleged deficiences (remember, they're deficiences to you because you decided to date the man you weren't attracted to, probably unbeknownst to him) unless he ever asks and not out of anger at some point because you're dating Poindexter.

I met a man online a few months ago, and, to make a long story short, we met, we are a great match intellectually/emotionally.

I don’t know what to do because other than that he is just perfect and I like him very much, he makes me feel very good.

Yet chemistry is what we chase – somehow hoping that it turns into compatibility as well. No rational thinking is going to overcome your genetic and cultural biases.

I am concerned sometimes he is too attached to me and the way he started to make long term plans with me quite soon, but this isn’t a real problem.

The real problem is that I don’t find him attractive.

It's generally recommended that women ignore attraction and focus sorely on a guy being a "nice guy."I'm not sure who generally recommends that. I think that if you decide to date a man that you're not sexually attracted to (and basically hope to fall in love with everything else) you need to be very honest with yourself and see whether or not it's something you can do.

You also need to be the most optimistic person ever and be able to see past things you don't love to the things you do.

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